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婚姻与爱情，这是一个沉重而又幸福的话题，也是每个人一生要经历的事情，爱情给人带去快乐和美好生活的向往，婚姻给人带去幸福和美好生活的实现……

按一般人的思想，爱情和婚姻是拴在一起的，两个的联系是必然的，有爱情的婚姻才是幸福的。然而当今社会，多少曾经信誓旦旦要爱到海枯石烂的男女，结婚后没几年就离婚，甚至等不到结婚就分手，这又做何解释呢？不能说他们没有爱，可是为什么爱的婚姻会如此狼狈的结束呢？

曾经有一个朋友对我说，他经历过几次爱情，现在也有爱的女人，但他以后如果结婚，绝对不会是和自己爱的女人。可能你会觉得很诧异，听听他的解释或许你会明白些许。爱情实在是件奢侈品，太耗费精力了，光谈的这几年，就够累心的了，因为爱她，好吃好喝的伺候着，嘘寒问暖的巴结着，还总被拷问是不是真心的爱她……结婚是要找一个一起生活一辈子的人，那是一个漫长而琐碎的过程，如果真要找一个自己爱的女人，那不得劳累的英年早逝啊？还有，谈恋爱时是不会在乎她是不是处女，曾经有过几个男人，可是结婚后呢，那将是男人一个一辈子的心结，那些傻女人把自己的处女身给了别人，却期望着老公死心塌地的爱她一辈子，当男人是葱头啊。就算真的和一个处女结婚了，自己很爱她，那就更完蛋了，你得为她操劳一辈子，还怕哪天不顺她心了跟你闹离婚，或者她又被外面哪个男人给勾引了，那可要痛苦死人的。但是如果找个一般喜欢的女人结婚，你就不会那么操劳，更不会脆弱的心灵受到严重的打击，因为你并不爱她，在乎她只是因为你们一起经营着共同的生活，虽然幸福的指数会比较低，但是日子会过得踏实而舒心的，即使走到离婚这一步，也是无所谓的。婚姻其实就是两个性情相投的男女结合在一起相互依靠共同度过一生的合法手段，大可不必有那累人累心的爱情……

或许他的观点有些前卫，也不容易被一般人理解和接受，但却是不无道理的。时下常有人说，谈恋爱要找个自己爱的，结婚要找个爱自己的，这是个聪明而理性的说法哈。以前还有说，婚姻是爱情的坟墓，这也是前人的经验总结哈。总的来说，爱情是结婚前的事情，不一定要把它拖入婚姻，如果真觉得可以爱一辈子，那也无可厚非。以前的人经媒妁之言，父母之命结合在一起的夫妻，不是一辈子也过得踏实而幸福么，而那些所谓经历爱情奋斗而结合得又有几多有幸福得结果呢？

我之所以写这些东西来，无非想劝告那些想结婚的人，不要死等这爱情的到来，还等不到自己爱的人宁可孤身一生呢，你傻了啊？碰到性情相投的，感觉差不多的，就拉起手来一起生活，日后生活或许缺少点幸福的感觉，但得到的会是一生的轻松踏实，如果婚后建立了爱情，那幸福指数可是高高啊……祝愿有心人终成眷属！

还想奉劝那些有了爱情的人，爱情不是生活的全部，不要被爱冲昏了头脑，想结婚时先冷静的想一想，你爱的人是不是真的适合和你生活一辈子？还有那些婚前有摩擦，感情有裂痕的人，不要因为放不下几年经营的爱情而结婚，这样的婚姻注定时要失败的……

爱情不需要婚姻，写给那些没有爱情或者被爱情伤害的人儿。

Answer 1

Marriage and love, this is a heavy and again happy topic, is also the affair that everybody wants to experience from cradle to the grave, the love take look forward to of happy and fine life for person, the marriage take the carry out of happy and fine life …… for person

Press the ordinary people's thought, the love and marriages are a together of, two contact is inevitable, the marriage that has the love is just happy.However social nowadays, how much have ever swear to to love the seas dry up and rocks crumble men and women, after get married didn't how many years divorce, even can not wait get married and then break up, this again do explain?Can't say that they didn't love, but why loving marriage would such distress be over?

Had ever had a friend to say to me, he experienced several times love, also have the loving woman now, but he later if get married, absolutely can't be and loving woman of oneself.Possibility you will feel very surprised, hear his hermeneutic probably you will understand just some little.The love is really a luxury goods, wasting the energy too, the light talk of this how many years, enough worrying, because love her, delicious like to drink of wait upon, be caring and attentive of fawn on, return to is total to be cross-examine whether love sincerely her matrimony of …… wants to seek a live the lifetime together of person, that is an endless but fragmentary process, if really need to seek a woman with loving oneself, that can not the tired youth die early?Still have, will not care while fall in love she is a virgin, have ever had a few men, but is the matrimony behind, that will is a heart knot of lifetime of man, those silly womans give own virgin body other people, but expect what husband be dead set to love her lifetime, take man for the spring onion head.Calculated to get married with a virgin really, the oneself loves her very much, that even doomed, you have to work hard at chores the lifetime for her, return afraid which the day does not followed her heart to make with you divorce, or she again drive outside which man to seduce, that can want that pain and sufferings dies the person of.But if seek a general and favorite woman to get married, you will not work hard at chores so, more can't the weak mind be subjected to the serious stroke, because you do not love her, care she is just a comfortable heart of because you conduct the common life together, although the index number of the happiness would be lower, the day will lead dependably, even walking to divorce this one step, is also a doesn't matter of.The marriage is the men and women who two character feelings throw mutually in fact to combine together to depend on mutually together legal means of spend the whole life, need not have that tiring and worrying love …… greatly

Probably his some vanguards of standpoint, also not easy was comprehended and accepted by the ordinary people, but don't have no truth.At present often someone say, falling in love to to seek an oneself loving, get married to to seek a love own, this is a parlance 哈 of cleverness but reasonableness.Still said before, the marriage is the grave of the love, this is also the people of the past's experience summary 哈 .Total to say, the love is to get married the ex- affair, not necessarily want to drag along it into the marriage, if really feel can love the lifetime, that is also no serious mistakes committed.The person of the past through the speech of the , the parents' life husband and wife combine together, not is to also lead dependably during a lifetime but happy 么 , but those so-called career loves struggle but combine have again much more several be lucky the blessing to get the result?

The reason that I write these things to come, wanting to advice those persons who want to get married nothing but, do not wait forever the arrivals of this love, still etc. does not arrive persons of oneself's love would rather the body whole life, do you are silly?Run into the temperament to throw mutually of, feel about of, pull to begin to come together living, living be in need of the felling of some happiness probably in the days to come, but get of will be life relaxed dependable, if built up the love after getting married, that happy index number but high and high the …… wishes to wish to have the heart the person to become the dependents eventually!

Still want to receive to advise those persons who have the love, the love is the living all not, don'ted want to be love to hurtle to faint the brains, calming down first while thinking the matrimony of consider, does the person whom you love is true to suit to live the lifetime with you?Still have those premarital have the friction, the affection contain the person of the fracture, not important cause for canning not let go the love that several years conduct but get married, such marriage destine the …… that to fail

The love do not need the marriage, writing to those to have no love or drive harmful person's son of love.

Answer 2

太长了，没有人愿意翻译的，上面的一位虽然翻译很长，可是是机器翻译的，没有效果的。